Divorce For the Sake of the Children

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So many married couples contemplating divorce stay together for the sake of the children. While splitting up is sure to have a negative impact on the children warring couples do not consider that the impact on the children of staying together. I propose a better solution - the amicable split.

It is often said that that for a child to grow into a well adapted adult they need love and happiness while growing up. While that is surely a big generalization it does have some truth to it. No child is going to like coming home from school each day to parents that can barely stand the sight of each other.

While many parents think they can keep their marital problems away from the children it is a facade. It cannot be done. A child knows what love looks like. It is not in what the parents say it is in how they relate to each other, the kindness they show to each other and the thoughtfulness towards each other. If a child grows up in a family where this love is not present what are they going to learn about love for their own future? Will they grow into adults who think it is normal for parents not to talk to each other in the family home? Will they think that you don't need to work on marriage with a partner?

If parents stay together for the sake of the children rather than for the sake of the love they have for each other then invariably the relationship between the two parents gets worse rather than better. When they do finally decide to divorce then they are so far gone that there is no chance of an amicable split. Further damage is done.

Some of the problems of a messy divorce are the arguments over the property settlement, custody battles, child support payments, arguments about who takes the children on a given day, where do the children go to school, what friends to they have, how are they expected to relate to the parent's new lovers and step parents? Some will actively try to get the children to take sides.

If two parents are not able or willing to work on their relationship, and rekindle their love for each other then best option is the amicable split. Parents supporting each other, helping each other out with the children, being able to have a civil conversation when they meet, being able to come to a compromise when disagreements arise. Parents being able to speak to their children in a mature way about each other and what went wrong in the parent's relationship. In that way the children will be able to learn from their parent's mistakes.

So my final advice to parents who find that cannot get along with each other. To parents who are no longer in love I implore you divorce - for the sake of your children. When you do it - forget all the emotion, the betrayals, the pain. Put all that stuff in the past, move on with your life and show your children the love and respect they truly deserve.

What is the Proper Way to Swing the Golf Club?

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As golf is all about consistence and being able to replicate your swing time and time again under all sorts of different conditions, it follows that there is a swing technique that is generally recognized to be the easiest to follow.

That's not to say that you can't be a professional golfer with a swing that goes all over the place. After all, just look at Jim Furyk and of course Jon Daly - you'd never find those swings in a text book manual about golf, yet between them they have been incredibly successful on the professional stage.

However, for the sake of teaching beginners the conventional technique, here are some tips:

1) Keep your left arm straight at all times during the swing, including when you address the ball. Some people may not have the flexibility to keep their left arm straight at the top of the swing so these people should just keep it straight as much as they can. A straight left arm is easy to replicate time and time again.

2) Take the club back outside the line of the ball. This is very hard to discuss without a diagram to show you, but the club path during the initial take away should go outside the line of the ball because on the downswing it drops back on the inside again.

3) Keep that head down and focused on the ball. Although you need to make sure that your head doesn't intrude the path your shoulders will have to make when they rotate.

4) Have a pre-shot routine so that your stance is consistent each time. Slight bend at the knees and arms extended out comfortably. Feet around should width apart - although this can vary for more advanced golfers depending on the club. Grip the club with the over-locking grip.

These four hints are absolutely key for beginners to be shown as soon as they start playing golf. This gets them into the right habit and it is likely their game will develop faster as a result.

Bunk Beds - 6 Easy Tips You Should Know For Your Child's Sake

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1. Before choosing the correct bunk bed for your child's bedroom measure the room dimensions. Bring the dimensions to the store and find a bed that will comfortably fit. It's important to learn the dimensions first and make sure that the bed will fit before you make any design plans. You definitely want to make sure that the beds fit into the room properly.

2. Get your child involved in the choosing of the beds. Read ads online and in the newspapers and magazines. Visit a store in person so that your child can try out the bed first. You wouldn't let them choose your bed, I'm sure. It's important for them to be part of the decision making process.

3. Consider the overall design scheme of your child's room and decide which bunk bed would best suit its surroundings.

4. Nowadays, kids' bunk beds are much safer than ever before. They are made with much better materials. The structure has improved and they are better designed. Some even have guard rails.

Upon purchasing bunk beds, show your child how to use the ladder safely.

5. Decide on the type of frame.

6. Determine how much weight the top bunk can withstand. Bunk beds are designed to be sturdy, but usually are designed to be able to handle a certain amount of weight. Test the bed out first and buy a bed that will hold a considerable amount of pressure.

Don't just by from any store. Find a store in your area who has a perfect record with The Better Business Bureau. Search for one that carries brand names with a huge selection of models that are only display. You also want to choose a company whose expertise includes: a guaranty to beat any competitor's advertised or sale price, a knowledgeable & friendly staff plus, set-up & remove old bedding for FREE and free delivery in your local area.

Wines Made From Non-Grape Ingredients

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When most people think of wine they think of grapes. While most wines we think of are made with grapes, there are many varieties that are made with other ingredients. Wines can also be made of other fruits, starches and weeds.

Most fruits can be made into wine and these fruit wines are very popular with home wine makers. Popular choices for fruit wines are apples and elderberries. For fruits with a high acid content that do not have enough sugar to ferment sucrose is added as is potassium, phosphorous and nitrogen when there is not enough yeast to ferment the sugar. Fruit wines do not get better with age and are mainly bottled to be consumed within one year.

Sake is a rice wine and the process to make it is very much like the process to make beer. Sake is a Japanese wine, but they are not the only country to get creative with winemaking. The Chinese invented a wine made from fish. A winery in Scotland has made wine from vegetables such as carrots and turnips. Popular in Europe as well as the United States is a wine made from dandelions. In West Africa there is a wine made from palm trees.

Mead is an alcoholic beverage made from honey that is often referred to as honey wine. It is made from honey and water using fermentation yeast. Its alcohol content ranges from that of ale to strong wine. Mead can be dry, sweet or semi-sweet and is either flat or sparkling.

For Entertainment Sake

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My father and paternal uncle were living together at our village when I was studying in my elementary class. There were few children in our family. Since it was a small village, there was no entertainment for us other than playing some indoor games. No television or video games were there at that time. The only entertainment for us was to go for a movie occasionally.

Unfortunately there was no theatre in our village. We had to go to a neighbouring village, which is three kilometers away from our village. Going for a movie for us was not as easy as everybody thinks. After much persuasion our parents used to give their consent so reluctantly, as they knew that it would involve a marathon effort by them. So even after agreeing to take us to the movie, they always would look for some flimsy grounds to cancel the programme by showing our minor injuries, which happened while we play, or possibility of rain on that particular day. Since there was no bus facility available to the neighbouring village, they had to depend on roofed bullock cart (in tamil it is called 'Koondu Vandi'), which was the cheap mode of transport available at that time.

They had to prepare the bullock carts well in advance to keep it ready for the journey. They also had to make the bullocks in a fit condition and also make them to wear iron shoes. They had to prepare the driver who drives the bullock cart to be available on that day. Many times our journey was called off as the driver failed to turn up on that auspicious day. Once we had to return half the way because the bullocks refused to go further. So many times our entertainment trip happened to be an unpleasant one. But it never deterred our enthusiasm; we always used to persuade our parents whenever we came to know that there was a good movie screened in the neighbouring village.

After few years, a touring talkie was opened in our own village. We thought that it would put an end to all our ordeals and anxiety and also would give a great relief to our parents.

Of course, our parents got a relief, as they no longer required to arrange marathon journey for us. But our joy of enjoying a movie was short lived. We realized that watching a movie in a touring talkie is really a Herculean task. Once we went for a movie, but returned without seeing the movie as the theatre owner informed us that since they did not get enough crowd, could not run the show. Once we returned disappointed, as the reels containing the box, which was to come from the neighbouring town, did not reach. Once we gone for a movie for the noon show at 2 P.M. but returned at 2 A.M. as they took lot of time in pasting the reels which used to cut off every ten minutes run. Once we had enjoyed only half the movie as heavy rain interrupted and the whole place became a pool (!)

Now I am amazed to see the developments happened there. Almost every house has telephone and T.V sets with cable connection. They are enjoying the movies at the comfort of their drawing room. Even they demand the movies of their choice. Most of the houses having computers with Internet connection.. Hollywood movies are available through CDs. What a change! Earlier we were running for the entertainment. Now entertainment knocks the doors of our homes.

For Goodness Sake, Are You Drunk?

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The Samurai are known for been one of the most respected and respectable class of citizens of ancient Japan. Such status had the samurai they could do things such as dismember people who offended them without having to answer for themselves. This was the power the samurai wielded, a power unheard of almost today in any so called civilised society. One may even argue that if such people as the samurai were to walk among us today, society may well be a much more respectful place to live out of fear of losing limbs at least!

Indeed, it would be hard to imagine the many undesirable acts of today co-existing with the presence of samurai without an abundance of heads but no bodies. For example, could you possibly imagine the today's danger of drunken behaviour, this terror pervading our streets, offending all, concerned or non-concerned, with samurai around, his mind as sharp and stealed as his katana, and ready to use it?

Well, I suppose that depends how drunk the samurai was. Yes, not even the everyman of every culture's favourite hobby of drinking was forbidden to the samurai. Infact, they used to have quite a good knees up on their favourite tipple of alcohol laced Sake.

Whilst a samurai, in the company of other samurai may of been forgiving of and forgiven for intoxicated behaviour, a drunken samurai may well of been a far more dangerous and volatile person than any of the yobs of today whilst drunk. So, we may rest at ease perhaps we are been chased by a drunken idiot with intentions of beating us up, rather than a drunken and incoherent samurai with a legal right to cut our heads off!

Can Separation Save Marriage?

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A trial separation may allow the spouse who wants the divorce to experience some of the feelings of being separated without making a final decision to divorce. The main advantage of a trial separation, of course, is that it's easily reversible. You can try it for a while, go through counseling, and then reconcile, or you can try separation for a while, decide you like it - and then proceed with divorce.

There are two ways you and your spouse can separate: either with an informal separation or by a formal legal separation.

An informal separation is basically whatever the two of you agree it to be. Typically, one of you stays in the home you had previously shared, and the other moves into some other quarters. At this stage you normally wouldn't make any formal property division, but you would agree, informally, on some kind of working arrangement about possession of things like cars, the bank accounts, the credit cards, and the stereo.

A formal legal separation is more permanent, more complicated, and more expensive. It's also much less common. It's nearly as expensive as a divorce - sometimes more so, because it's less common - so you may have to pay your lawyer to figure out how to do everything. And often people who get a formal legal separation wind up having to go through all the pain, time, and expense again later to get an actual divorce.

So why, I hear you ask, would anyone go through a formal legal separation? Maybe because some states require that a couple seeking a divorce have been separated for some period of time. Also, some couples need to remain legally married, perhaps so one can continue to be insured for medical or other purposes by the other's company. Formal legal separation makes this possible.

Occasionally, there is no question that the couple is moving toward divorce, but know it will take some time to work everything out. If their incomes are substantially different, it may be worth agreeing on a written separation agreement; that way the person paying any alimony can deduct it on his or her tax return. The paying spouse might be able to pay the receiving spouse more than enough to pay the tax on the alimony, and still come out ahead. Sometimes one of the spouses has a religious objection to divorce. A formal separation will allow the spouses to remain officially married even as they live separate lives.

Beyond that, there may not be much of a reason to go through the time, pain, and expense of a formal legal separation. Better perhaps to agree to reach a working arrangement for an informal separation. You can then follow it up directly with either reconciliation or divorce.

So, can separation save a marriage - that is the question. Some people strenuously resist separation, thus adding even more stress into an already tense marriage. Perhaps separation may be the best option for some marriages, despite the looming shadow of divorce, as living together is obviously is not working. However, can you make it work from a distance? A trial separation will go a long way in helping you decide the answer.

Why? Because couples who separate tend to find that without the constant daily conflict and bickering the lack of proximity to their spouse provides time to think, and solve problems. Marital problems are often hard to resolve as they often get stalled by egos, fear and stubbornness. Resolution can flourish as long as at least one partner is willing to keep trying; if the urge to always be right and not back down remains then it probably means that the separation will end in divorce.

It is therefore strongly recommended that you at least give trial separation a try. If only for the sake of trying to save your marriage.

Enjoying a Cruiser Bike For Old Time's Sake - What You Should Know About This

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For those of us who have been around since the days of post world war II, the cruiser bikes were a common sight seen on the roads, as these were the most popular two wheelers back in those good old days.

As it is said "fashion is such an ugly thing that it doesn't stay around for long and has to be changed regularly". Same fate was met with by the early day cruisers which almost disappeared from the roads just as puddles do after days of sunshine.

But not for long as the days came back again when the collectors started hunting for the classic vintage models for refurbishing the antiques at the turn of the century. That is when the Schwinn started producing the long lost designs once again as they started gaining popularity with the antique style lovers, especially those who had paddled them in their childhood and still remembered the comfort and stability that came with the additional weight and its famous balloon tires.

Today you can find the same old comfort in a beach, multiple speed, and stretch and kids cruiser bike. Just for the old time's sake get on one and let yourself take a ride down your memory lane when the sun shone bright and you had your youthful smile fixed on your face when you first got your new cruiser for the first time as a child and paddled down the street to show it off to your friends.

You can repeat the history with your grand children with a kid's cruiser and watch your childhood replay in front of your own eyes. As your future generation paddles along the road in the same way as you used to do half a century ago. Those were the good old days.

Chicago Bears Defense Resilient in 2009

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The Chicago Bears 09' season is one filled with optimism. The Denver Broncos did the Bears a favor by creating trade talk with Jay Cutler, the Bears knew if they wanted to reach and win the Super Bowl they needed more then a game manager quarterback. The Bears had decades of mediocre quarterbacks from Kyle Orton, Rex Grossman, Chad Hutchinson, Craig Krenzel, Jonathan Quinn, Chris Chandler, Jim Miller, Cade McNown, Shane Mathews, Rick Mirer and Steve Stenstrom - that was just in the last decade. The last ten years the Indianapolis Colts have had one starting QB, Peyton Manning.

Now with their franchise QB (hopefully for Bears fans' sake) the Bears can score points on offense and compete in a division that is winnable for them. For the Bears to win the division they must play their best ever single week. The Minnesota Vikings have more talent and experience then the Bears with Adrian Peterson and Brett Favre. If the Bears expect to beat the Vikings or even Green Bay Packers they must beat the lesser quality opponents - Detroit Lions.

The Chicago Bears defense isn't what it was, they might not strike fear into the opponents hearts like they once did such as in 06'. The Bears defense still can create turnovers and cause disruption for opposing QB's - especially when the weather turns cold and windy in Soldier Filed.

Jay Cutler may be the missing piece the Bears need to finally raise the Super Bowl Trophy - first since 1986. Jay Cutler isn't a "one man band" other teammates must help Cutler so he isn't trying to do everything himself. This is a make or break year really to know if WR Devin Hester will be a great receiver (if not now then when) or just another wide receiver. Hester can break any game wide open and cause trouble for any defense.

Writing For Writing's Sake - Relax and Having Fun While Writing

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The academic profession requires writing on a continuous basis, as you should look into seeking to publish on a fairly regular basis. Writing for publication can be fun but requires adherence to specific rules, discipline, appropriate language and a subject-related topic to be covered.

That leaves little room for letting the words flow on the paper, and writing becomes an exercise at times rather than a relaxing and fun undertaking. Some of us would simply like to share their personal experiences, discuss their insights without the background, build up and justification academic pieces require, thus it might be a helpful to find another type of writing outlet for the fun of writing. Ezines, blogging, one's own website, but also writing a newspaper column commenting on specific issues offer such outlet. However, what is the benefit to the academic writer? (If you are worried that this may affect your academic reputation use a pen name)

Well, first of all, writing can be a relaxing and almost therapeutic exercise. A writer does not necessarily have to write about their personal problems but engaging with a topic of one's interest away from stress and our daily job tasks can have a very relaxing.

Secondly, any writing is good practice. We still have a structure the ideas we are presenting, and we still have to engage with the written word, which allows us to practice and be more skilled in wording and presenting a point of view.

Finally, for some it is as much fun as it is to read a good book, watch a film, meet friends or exercise. Finding that you have produced something in your free time can be very satisfying, and provide the peace of mind we need to continue on our academic research. So go on and have fun writing.

The Main Benefits of Endermologie

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Cellulite. Those trapped pockets of fat near the surface of the skin that make your skin look bumpy and puckered. Unappealing to most, it appears in problematic areas such as the upper thighs, buttocks, and stomach where many fibrous bands exist to trap fat. Since these areas are slow to react to the benefits of exercise, once cellulite appears, it is often difficult and impossible for those affected to eliminate it. Unfortunately, it is a common occurrence in women even if they do exercise on a regular basis.

Several creams and pills flood the market boasting their curative properties fighting cellulite, but most are only very temporary solutions to a permanent problem. Other treatment methods with longer lasting results can be acquired from cosmetic procedures involving invasive surgery, such as liposuction. However, these are not viable options for those unwilling to go under the knife for the sake of their vanity.

Is there no remedy to "Orange Peel" or "Cottage Cheese" skin, then?

Of course not! In treatments that are about 40 minutes in length, Endermologie reduces or eliminates cellulite with long lasting results in a non-invasive cosmetic procedure that is not surgical. It is also less expensive than liposuction.

Using a hand held device with motorized rollers and controlled suction, the targeted areas are massaged deeply to stretch fibers that are attached to fat, stimulate blood circulation and lymphatic drainage while the patient wears a body stocking. Toxins are released, allowing for the reduction of cellulite in a painless procedure. This unique device has been approved by the American Food and Drug Administration (FDA), and has been researched and tested throughout the years.

Endermologie is not only for cellulite, though. It can be used for those suffering from poor blood circulation, muscular pains, and to exfoliate the skin to smoothen it. In fact, the procedure was originally invented over three decades ago in France for the purposes of acting as rehabilitative treatment for damaged muscular tissue, burns and scars. The reduction of cellulite was simply a side effect to the procedure, and was first used in the United States a decade ago for this purpose.

Usually, a few treatments are required before the appearance of cellulite is reduced or eliminated. It can begin with two procedures per week then gradually, as the results become apparent, follow up treatments are scheduled once per month. Those who have been treated with Endermologie should continue to exercise and diet accordingly to maintain its effects.

To find out more about Endermologie® and to see if it is the right treatment for you, please visit your physician and cosmetic surgeon.

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Japanese Customs - What is Sushi?

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Once virtually unknown in the USA, sushi is now a common food associated with the Japanese. So what is sushi? Basically, sushi is cooked rice that has been treated with vinegar and then topped with other ingredients, most commonly seafood. It can also be rolled into a cylinder and sliced, which is called makizushi. Sushi is different from raw sliced fish (served without a bed or rice), which is called sashimi. The traditional form of sushi is fermented fish and rice, preserved in salt. Sushi literally means "it's sour", not raw, a misconception of the Western world.

So how is sushi made? Sushi rice is special, short-grained variety of white rice. After cooking, it is mixed with rice vinegar, sugar, and salt. Sometimes sake is added. The rice has to be seasoned at room temperature or it will be too sticky to handle. Traditionally, it is mixed in a hangiri, a round wooden tub, with a shamoji, a wooden paddle. The consistency of the rice is different from the long-grain rice of India and Vietnam. What makes the Japanese rice so desirable for sushi is its stickiness. While different regions of Japan use different types of vinegar and seasonings for the rice, the rice variety remains consistent throughout Japan.

Traditional Japanese sushi is topped with raw fish. Uncooked fish of course must be fresher and of higher quality than fish that is cooked, which is why professional sushi chefs are trained to recognize high quality fish. They have to be able to judge a fish's characteristics, which include smell, color, and firmness. Commonly used fish are tuna, snapper, yellowtail, mackerel and salmon. Nori, the black seaweed wrapper used to make sushi rolls, is a type of algae. Pressed, dried and flavored with teriyaki and salt, the nori is often eaten alone as a snack, though nori used in sushi making is rarely flavored with teriyaki.

Condiments used to compliment sushi include soy sauce, pickled ginger, gomashio (roasted sesame seeds and sea salt) and wasabi (a green horseradish paste). True wasabi has anti-microbial properties which reduce the risk of food poisoning. A commonly used substitute is horseradish and mustard powder mixed with a green dye, sometimes called "Japanese Horseradish." In traditional Japanese sushi bars, green tea is always included with the meal. Sake is another common drink served with sushi. Sake, a wine made from rice, is normally served hot in the winter and cold with lemon in the summer months.

Want to impress your friends or family? Host a sushi party - it's easier than you think. Prepare a low table with some cushions or mats surrounding it. Place a simple vase with a flower or two on the table. Purchase or download some traditional Japanese music that includes the shakuhachi (flute) and shamisen (stringed instrument) to play in the background. Buy a low cost vintage kimono for your guests or just one for yourself if you are serving. Purchase fresh sushi to go at your favorite restaurant or food store (make sure you use it right away). Use a wooden platter for the sushi and small plates for each guest. Don't forget the chopsticks! Heat some sake, make some green tea, light the candles, turn down the lights, and you are ready to go. A wonderful evening in Japan for your guests!

Difference Between Goal Setting and Life Purpose

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Most people might get confused with this statement - what exactly is the difference between goal setting and life purpose! But when you think about it for a minute, you will realize there is a vast difference between life goal and life purpose. Though it is quite confusing to some of us, when we think about it seriously, and look in your heart, you will feel that the difference is crystal clear. Let's have a look at what exactly these both concepts stand for and how they are different from each other.

Life Goal

Life goal is something that can be called as the basic needs of human life. To stay alive there are certain basic needs that have to be fulfilled. To fulfill these basic needs we organize our days, months, years and sometimes a whole of our life. What are these basic needs? Food, shelter, and clothing are our three basic needs. To acquire these amenities we work hard and select our work or professions influenced by our social, economic and cultural background. This is where our goal of life lies. Our basic goal of life is earning a livelihood and maintaining a lifestyle suiting our background and culture.

Believe it or not, most of the time we are so involved in fulfilling our requirements that we are not left with any time or need to think anything else than earning bread and butter. Oblivious of this fact that human life has much more to do and give than simply taking birth, surviving and dying aimlessly. And this happens most of the time for a majority of people. They are so entangled with their basic needs that their life has no other motive than that of staying alive.

Life Purpose

But human life is so precious and unique, that wasting it just for the purpose of 'staying alive', is quite ridiculous. We need to raise our standards from just meeting our basic needs or things, and do something that pleases us internally. This is something we don't do for earning money or getting names and fame, but for the sake of our own pleasure, enjoyment or even bliss. This thought process leads us towards our life purpose.

Have you ever thought why most of the known scientists, celebrities, world famous doctors, leaders belong to developed countries? Why would that be? It doesn't necessarily mean that under developed or developing countries did not create such prodigies at all but the ratio cannot compete with the developed countries. Why is that so? It is because they have acquired all the life needs that can be termed as basic needs. They could spare time and resources to pursue their passions or purpose of life. They wanted to do something unique and different that they can enjoy and have driven passion for it. That's where they carve their purpose of life.

Life Goal and Life Purpose

So we can say that life goal and life purpose are altogether two different aspects and processes to lead a life. When we live only for the sake of living and staying alive we are bound to pursue our life goal. But when we get out of this realm of such petty requisites and think of something different and more fruitful only then we aim towards our life purpose. It's now, entirely your own decision if you wish to pursue your life goal or your life purpose. No doubt without pursuing life goal thinking of life purpose is baseless. You need to bring your life to such a pedestal where you are free from all thoughts of primary needs then you can move towards your life purpose. You must not forget the difference between goal and life purpose while pursuing your purpose of life.

Why wait for sex - for the sake of your relationship

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You know that you wait for sex? Are you ready to begin a relationship, but not sure how to handle the physical aspect? You know how long to wait before your relationship with sex? Sex is a topic often confusing to people. It is not easy when you get older, and always leads to a certain pressure, a new report. However, for the sake of your relationship you should start waiting in sex.

Modern society says that two consenting adults canSex if they want. It 'happened that night is common. These reports can begin with a roll of hay. However, there are good reasons why you have to wait to have sex if you want a relationship. If you just want to have sex with him and then you like. But if you want more than you should wait for sex, for the sake of your relationship.

Before You should wait to have sex because weed the losers. This may or may not be a good thing for you, butthere are some people out there who only in it for sex. Through him, it's time to go get rid of these guys load faster.
According should also expect to have to have sex in order to develop relations. Sex is a link, and if you start, the association of many people and not feel connected to the development of a bond that is deeper work. However, you want more and want to make sure that you agree getting emotionally attached.
Third sex probably means more and betterYou get to the point that you think are disabled.

Many women believe they have a man, if he loses not give the sex early. This myth was to be started by a man. The truth is that if you are a man who wants something more than sex, will have to wait. If only after sex and then leaves you in the end anyway. Are worth the wait, and you know him well.

How long you expect to go until they are. However, you should wait to have bothformed an emotional bond. You can decide whether what it is. Some experts recommend waiting at least ninety days.

We recommend that you wait for the good of your sex. The best relationships are the emotional connection that is based deep and true. This is easier to build if you do not have sex. Not be easy, but it will be good for your relationship.

Why Are You So Nice?

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That's a question I get asked all the time. When I look back at my life, I see a former people pleaser. My business was to make others happy. I was a girl who:

1. was on everyone's team
2. was ready to go to great lengths to make everyone happy
3. wanted everyone to like her
4. offered her assistance in anyway she could
5. took criticism as a personal attack against her and was ready to go to great lengths to change it
6. sacrificed her own wants and needs for the sake of others

And all of this with the hope that the same would be given to me in return. IT NEVER WAS. Being a people pleaser is not necessarily a bad thing in theory but being overly agreeable and always making yourself available to help others while letting their needs take precedence over your own, IS BAD.

So here's what I need you to do. I need you to be selfish. Yeah, you heard me. BE SELFISH! Focus on yourself! Put the attention back on you and stop giving away all your happiness for the sake of others. I know this reasoning contradicts everything you've ever learned but, if you want to have any type of peace and happiness in your life, then this is what you need to do.

Putting all your time and effort into people who don't care to return the effort will leave you feeling angry, resentful and unappreciated. There's nothing wrong with doing for others and while I wholeheartedly encourage it, if you're lacking in your own personal development while others are reaping the benefits of your generosity, I need you to make some changes NOW!

Take the following test to see if you're a people pleaser:

1. Do you have a hard time saying no to people?
2. When saying yes to someone/something, do you later feel resentful, angry or guilty?
3. Do you avoid expressing your feeling to others?
4. Do you avoid getting angry?
5. Are you afraid of rocking the boat?
6. Do you admire those who speak their minds?
7. Are you overly agreeable?