Is it Right to Stay in a Marriage "For the Children's Sake"?

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Sometimes, it is better to live your life alone rather than staying in a marriage that you are miserable in. Some spouses refuse to get a divorce just for "the children's sake", even if their marriage died long ago. But did you know that it is sometimes healthier and better for the kids if their parents get a divorce rather than see how miserable their parents are together?

When we hear of divorce, negative things come to mind - the end of a relationship, a broken family, misery, loss. But there are times when divorce becomes the better choice than staying together. Most spouses refuse to get a divorce because they think it's what's best for the kids. Children generally do better with a mother and a father to support them as they grow. However, it would be better for the kids to live in a happy environment with just a mother or a father than stay in a house seeing their parents argue everyday.

And if you do resort to pretending that everything is all right with your husband or your wife, consider how your children will react. They are not dummies nor are they emotionally callused. They will eventually find out that something's wrong. Truelove and affection can never be faked, especially in front of children. There will always be that uneasy silence or that hostile stare that they will notice now and then.

Remember, seeing you genuinely happy will make your kids happy as well. So if both of you think that divorce is the healthiest choice for your relationship, then it will also become the best choice you can make for your children's sake. All you need to do is to make them understand why both of you are separating. Be open and talk to them together as husband and wife. They will still need all the reassurance and support that you can give. Try to make the entire process as civilized and as peaceful as possible to reduce any emotional impact it may have on your children.