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Many people decide they will stay together so their children will have two parents in the home. If you and you spouse do not get along and have decided to remain in the same household here are a few tips to keep peace and harmony for the sake of the children.
Avoid getting into arguments over anything in front of your children. This will not accomplish anything but make everyone miserable.
Do not flaunt the fact that you are seeing someone in front of your spouse. Discreet is the word that needs to be emphasized. If this has been worked out and both of you have agreed that it is going to be ok to see someone else the best thing is to keep it under wraps. Your children will not be happy about it and you will end up doing more harm than good by announcing this.
Young children are more concerned with their parents being together sometimes more so than older ones. The parents that are going to stay together to raise their children should still attend functions such as parent/ teacher meetings and class recitals together so they can show a united front for the sake of the children. This should always take precedence over anything else.
Time spent with grandparents can still be feasible. Maybe instead of the grandparents visiting your home, the kids can go to them for a change. This can be explained to your parents or his ahead of time so as to take care of any confusion. They will still get to enjoy their grandchildren and the sense of normalcy remains for the children.
There is no need to get into details with children, especially younger ones. They will not understand and this will just confuse them. For the time being just knowing they have a regular family as long as there is no bickering and fussing constantly will make them happy.
Holidays are a hard time for parents when they are not together so if you are staying together for your children, the holidays should be celebrated as you always have. This will allow the children to have a good holiday and you will be glad you did so when your children are older and have had the time to look back over the times they remember from childhood. Everyone wants their children to remember a happy childhood.
These are just a few of the tips that will make the time spent with your children a little happier and will keep from upsetting their routine. The important thing is the kids because they will not know the sacrifices that were made for them until they are older. But when they do realize what was done in order to provide them with a happy home life while they were growing up, this will show them again just how much they mean to the both of you and how much they are loved.
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