You feel trapped in your marriage?

Often a person who comes to me for coaching, show / he is dissatisfied with his marriage and wants to leave. A woman, in general, which does not leave because their lifestyle financially collapsed. Similarly, a man who wants to leave his marriage, but believes that it can not for financial reasons. He reasons that include the 50 percent savings on property, home, etc. A great sacrifice is complaining is going to lose.

When the children because they are often thought to remain togetherwelfare of children is the ultimate gesture, a good parent. There is considerable controversy about staying in the relationship for the sake of children. There is a wealth of research on the topic. These researchers Dorree Lynn, PhD, says: If one parent of children is a marriage on grounds of, are a terrible burden for their children. "There's too much to ask a child for only the glue holding a family together. If the parents who havewanted a divorce all the time, they finally left after their children at home, children will feel cheated and lied. They also feel frustrated that the myth was broken by the perfect family. You wonder what is true and what was a lie. Furthermore, although far from rational angry at the fact that if you have been together for so long, because apart from them, after which interfere gone. Even adult children tend to naturally centered at their point of view, in part becauseYou helped make it that way. Do you think that if you have sacrificed for them all the time, because you do not want to do so? They always want their homes to go home. "

If the parents divorced a long time, the children will adapt to having two homes to return as adults.

Also, if you stay in a relationship solely for the good of the children, are role models such as marriage without love and life. As if divorce is possible to model rolethat individual happiness is important.

The truth is that anyone can leave a relationship at any time, but often dissatisfied party is not ready to lead because of the loss of property and the perceived financial loss would be to leave that.

Two people can live more cheaply than one. The fact is that there is only a rent or mortgage payment, cable bill, an electricity bill, and a water bill, even though the water and electricity bill is slightly higher for two people. Two people canShares of food more efficient than single, which often destroy food experience before being eaten. can speak of a single person rarely eat large amounts to buy food stock that is cheaper per pound. Although couples who share a hotel room together traveling, many people travel together and share a room. Two people can afford luxury goods, boats, quads, House, while singles might not be able to buy such luxuries.

Unhappy spouses often seefor what they have accumulated over a long marriage, and are not easy to give up possessions, lifestyle, real estate, home, or other amenities. This is understandable.

But how comfortable you have the "wellbeing" are when you put in your report look like? How would you like your boat, camper, to share the time, so if you and your spouse have not spoken or even a loving contact with each other in recent months? E 'worth half a million dollar house to avoid the two of you end up in the same room with each other? It 'nice to your music-was-the-art system to play when there is nobody to share it with?

Some people are pretty disgusted with the report that they worry more about than they lose, and let them decide. However, when they see what they lost, many people get angry, and believe that the other person is in a ratio of one whodeserves to lose. Most people are disappointed with their relationships convinced that the other person's fault, whatever it is. This is not the case.

Marriage is a two way street. It takes two people a good one or two people to make a bad one. No one can really destroy a marriage all by himself or without the help of partner countries. If marriage is a mess, all the parties have a shared responsibility in the cafeteria.

You are the one thatwant to leave your relationship, are not automatically entitled to take over everything. If you go, you have to go empty-handed. Stuff is just stuff. Money is just money. You can replace stuff, but your mental and emotional well-being and happiness are priceless. If you have exhausted all possibilities of reconciliation, you must leave the report for your mental, emotional health and happiness.