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Longing to be with Mom? Longing to be with your kids yet circumstance, distance or other factors come in to play which may not afford you this luxury?
No problem. Longing isn't "bad" nor does it need to be sad. It just means we are fond of the time we have spent with our favored friends or family from the past.
Here's what I do. I think of what they liked best or what we liked to do best when we were together. Then I recreate it in my own way as a kind of tribute!
My Mom is the one I'll use as an example since tomorrow is Mother's Day. This used to be a time of depression for me. Not any more. Now, I make something by knitting (something she showed me how to do), I do a crossword puzzle (our favorite time together) or make her favorite foods (list is too long, LOL!). I bring out all the things that remind me of her. Touch them and have a laugh the way we used to: big, loud and hearty. If I want to cry, I do. Believe you me, she hangs around here ALL THE TIME, anyway. So what's to miss? You just need to tune in.
It is what it is. Times change, people pass, situations evolve and time marches on. I took a break from life to let the changes in my life circumstances sink in and allow me the time I needed to readjust and regroup, but now I engage. Re-engage.
Why not? What the heck? Now... it's better for me this way. Before, it was better for me to disengage and I don't regret that. Times change, people change, subsequently, I changed.
I now know that there is nothing to hide from. There is nothing that is going to change by me not engaging in life. I am not sad, mad, bitter or think that life is unfair. Life is what it is, it unfolds in perfect time, and it is perfectly beautiful. Take a look without expectations, demands, or judgments. I don't pretend to understand it all, but I don't need to. And to me, it is as it should be. Very, very good.
