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How do you cope with change?
There is much talk of "change" - it is important, as the way it should change things at work and in our personal lives, to make them more efficient. Sometimes we'll see how it is necessary to change, even if only for the sake of change.
On impact Factory, we think that this is the change in meaning. But we are more interested in the change process and what are the effects of change in reality.
We exist inContradiction. On the one hand, we need stability and good performance when you feel safe and furnished in our work and home life. On the other side, we are capable of stagnation, complacency and creative when you from 'timid or modify, if we find we simply can not cope.
How can these two thoughts together, so that we can more easily relax and much better with the change?
One way is like limiting beliefs, patterns and habits, what will be the means of our being able toThe change in our lives when it happens.
We can usually predict when you will bring change, but we can be better equipped to tackle the problem if it works.
We can look at all the limits we put on ourselves and how we prevent open to change.
We begin to understand how patterns occur and what can we do to change start limiting habits and patterns. And we can for the various types of changes to look and there are some effective ways to addressthem.
So, what types of changes are there?
Some change is easy, it is often difficult, and sometimes may seem impossible.
From our point of view, there are five types of changes:
Simple changes, like changing your car or changing your hairstyle.
Change to do something, and relearn a new way how to get your golf swing.
Change something, change course, but do not want or can not see howcould be done. This type of change usually involves a habit - for example, smoking - you know, we should not, but can not seem to stop.
Change you know something absolutely positive that you can not change. This type of change is about beliefs.
Change, to be imposed, and do not seem to influence.
The first three, we set aside the day of our lives. It changes how little all the time. We can fight a bit 'with this kind of change. We can neverstop smoking, but are the kind of things that we consciously. We can be relatively easy, as we deal with this kind of change.
Yes, I can decide whether or not to change my haircut, and I could take some notes for a couple of days to receive combat, but it is unlikely that a change of hairstyle my life will change radically. Many other things could happen to the next.
And 'the fourth and fifth types of changes that will be much more difficult and thereforemore difficult and contentious. Both types are against the beliefs that we have created in support of our entire life.
The fourth type of change requires us to change a position that is a possibility of seeing the world that look at odds with the way we are used. This experience can easily tap into our uncertainty. Developing a sense of insecurity, the feeling of not really knowing what the 'right', what to do. Is no longer a predictable pattern, reliablefollow.
The fifth type has led to the change, can often feel the pain. If we say that in any case, we believe that you are doing for us. We can feel cheated or deceived. Often start, even those that receive this kind of change can deny. "We have no choice. The market has changed and we need change."
When change is imposed or brings us to our beliefs, we can only feel helpless experience.
On the other hand, it is also true that some peopleto change to thrive. We can not remain in the employment relationship in a report, in a country for a long time. You need to shake the status quo of their own. Sometimes to create a change to him.
Why is change so difficult sometimes?
We are pattern-mechanisms. In general, our systems are more comfortable with pattern and routine than with change. Once a model is established, our left-brain will be very happy to be running on this road.
Most models get very downthink fast, so what you have resistance, if the model part of their lives trying to change for years.
Some models are so simple and direct as the path we take to work each day. Some models are so complex as the way we feel about ourselves.
For example, the fourth type of change: change something I do not think so. A limitation of the faith.
Restricting or limiting patterns that people are often linked to low self-esteem. These may be the most difficultTo break patterns. The reason is that a system of beliefs, the model is stronger than contradictory statements: It 'been a long time.
If, as I grew, I heard over and over again, what's wrong with me and what I do to improve myself, then I have established a well-entrenched beliefs. Although I have not, and my parents or teachers, to strengthen it, will be the model. Now I would have gone with the vote the same punishment. Sois even in the face of evidence that I have done a good job, his voice that tells me how he could be better.
For me, it is necessary to change the voice that once I realize it's there. Guck "Look, I said again." Then I have a good part of what might be called an adjustment to make. I talk to myself or other people, as well as I did. I have to create the voice opposing the recognition and praise for the delicate balanceVoice.
Change can sometimes lead, paradoxically, easier to manage. The trick is the past - "I will not. "It's not fair." "Why me?"
Our dissatisfaction and powerlessness of this kind of change is so why not buy into an agreement, we had never heard of.
The only way is through this kind of change, by negotiating with themselves and other people are affected. Relief from stress and diseases caused by changes imposed arrives whenPeople choose to accept and commit to change the situation, stop fighting or feeling resentful. If the divorce is not done, then let the people away, you can start sectarian underground movements.
Change is inevitable, and especially for the change is good. Not live a life free of change, but sometimes we have to change more or obsessed with change requests than we can handle. When this happens, it helps to look at what changes will have your attention and effort.
Findsmallest change that will achieve what is necessary and are cautious about wholesale change and change for the sake of change.
See also sell the fourth type of change, and beliefs of other people or points of view. Change in this area, a task perhaps more difficult, but the end result of people who could be their attitude a bit 'dramatic.